Create Your Best Life
Can we talk about using manifestation to attain the best version of our lives? Take a moment and reflect on the things you want for your life. What do your dreams look like?
Take a moment to daydream about the kind of life you want for yourself
Is it a Pinterest worthy home? In which fresh flowers greet you at the entry? What flowers are they? A soft fluffy bed fit for a king is where you rest your head at night? A spa in your bathroom is where you recharge? And a well-fitted plush kitchen that even star chef Jamie Oliver would approve of is all yours? Is it a budding career? In which everything you touch is an obvious win or a clear lesson? Where doors open for you frequently and you have the power to pick and choose. Do your managers and colleagues sing your praises often? Is there a manager in the picture at all? Is your business still killing it in the game? Is it a healthy life? In which you often pick the best and most nutritious food for yourself? In which meditation and mental wellbeing are synonymous with who you are? Do you work out often and hit your fitness targets? Is it a loving relationship with a life partner? Maybe you have kids? One? Three? Maybe none? Do you spend a great time of your year traveling and making memories? What if you could attract this life for yourself?
You’ve probably heard about the law of attraction and how things like energy, vibrations or frequency can help us to subconsciously align to the life we want for ourselves. You’ve probably also thought, “Now what witchcraft is this?” But if you think about manifestation and the many forms it has taken over the years, you realise you have indulged in the practice in one way or another. Some people create vision boards, others write down goals that they want to achieve within a year or month, others daydream and visualise what life could be, while others pray. Yes, even prayer can be a form of manifestation because it is all based on faith. The essence of manifestation is to get our minds fixed or focused on something we want for ourselves. It could be for something as complex as wholesome life, financial stability or independence, healthy relationships, fitness goals, spiritual awakening, career growth and everything in between. But manifestations can be something as simple as wanting a dog. “Your dreams are valid.” Lupita Nyongo Like attracts like This principle is the foundation of the law of attraction. “Like attracts like” basically means that people or things that are on the same “wavelength” are drawn to each other. There are multiple sayings to back this principle. Physics taught us that “For every action in nature there is an equal and opposite reaction.” “Birds of a feather flock together,” “Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are”, “Misery loves company” all suggest that persons who have similarities in their personalities, habits or interests are often attracted to each other’s company. What does this have to do with the law of attraction? Plenty. Say, the birds in your flock are goalless, unmotivated and stuck in their old habits. What if you are the bird that wants to change its feathers for the version that it desires to become? What if you could change your feathers by changing the way you think? What would that look like? It would all likely start in the mind, in the thoughts , in asking questions like:
Why aren’t I motivated?
Is this where I want in my life?
What tools do I have at my disposal right now to make a positive change?
What lessons, skills or routines do I need to attain to make this shift?
What habits do I need to drop to become the person I envision?
The process doesn’t stop there. It has to be backed by focus, intention and action. The result might not be immediate but you will start to see your life shift into the path that you want to follow. Here’s a little cheat sheet to help you figure out where to start:
When you realise you could have the life you want
Define what you want:
Think about and visualise your big dreams, your small goals; everything and anything you want. You can attach dates or years to them if you want. Sometimes the biggest step towards anything is in simply voicing it out and affirming, “Yes, this is what I want for me.” The trick is to be as detailed as possible. So you are trying to manifest your dream career, what does that look and feel like? What does your day look like? How is your office arranged? How much is your salary? How do you feel after a day of work? It’s always in the details.
Address your conditioning
Sometimes, we stand in our own way of achieving what we want. Is it fear? Is it culture? Is it religion? Is it low self-worth? Is it something that has been repeated over and over and is now imprinted in your subconscious? Your dream might be to be rich but if all you hear everyday and everywhere is “money is evil, rich people are evil” and accept this as gospel truth then your dreams won’t come to reality. Build confidence and faith in yourself. Validate your dreams.
Monitor your thoughts and how you feel.
What you constantly think about, you attract. Everything starts in our thoughts. Your subconscious mind is driving the outcomes in your life, pay attention to the little things; the anxiety, the negative self-talk. Examine your thoughts frequently. “Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.” Lao Tzu
Stay on a positive frequency
This doesn’t mean that nothing bad will ever happen. It also doesn’t mean that you will stop acknowledging that something bad has happened in your life. Staying within a positive frequency is about how you react to things that happen. By positive, we mean stay grounded. Cultivate a lifestyle and habits that help you find peace, even in the storms.
Journaling helps you keep track of your progress towards your dreams. We all often disregard the small steps we make towards creating the lives we want and journaling helps with this. You just might surprise yourself when you read old entries and realise you're so much closer than you were before.
Set personal boundaries
If your goal is to be healthy, set boundaries on what you will and will not consume. If you’ve decided to limit your consumption of junk food to a bare minimum, then keep it that way. The commitment we make to ourselves in order to achieve our goals is the biggest and most important commitment we make in pursuit of our best lives.
You won’t always meet your goals. Sometimes you’ll miss the mark. Have some compassion for yourself regardless. Speak to yourself the way you would to a friend who hasn’t met their goals: softly, with encouragement. It’s one thing to learn from mistakes and something else altogether to beat yourself down to the point of failing to get back up again. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
The biggest dreams are all made up of small steps we can take every day. Perhaps your dream is to be fit. You can start by taking long walks to build your strength. After a month of just walking, you can try jogging for 20 minutes. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Your dreams don’t have to be either. Remember, living the best version of your life is not a destination. It’s a journey. Enjoy that journey. Take time to celebrate the wins and learn from the losses. It’s all part of your manifestation journey. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” Marianne Williamson