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Season One: Adulting in your 20s
This season features more than twenty-five episodes of conversations and self reflections on discovering the adulting world in your 20s. From navigating the hookup culture to handling your personal finances and imposter syndrome.
Episode 01: What story are you telling yourself about yourself?
Welcome to Can We Talk!
In this episode, I talk about IDENTITY and the importance of knowing who you are especially in your 20s. What do you base your identity on? Your own values and experiences? Your family? Your social media?
Episode 02: Everyone is hooking up
In this episode, we explore hook up culture and how it has impacted society's dating world, as well as mental health. What are your thoughts on hookup culture? How are you navigating dating and commitment in a society where casual sex has become the norm?
Episode 3: What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
In this episode, we explore the decisions we make when it comes to our career life. How do you make your decisions in your career life? How do you decide which jobs to apply for and what field you are choosing to navigate? How do you balance between working to survive and fulfillment?
Episode 04: F.R.I.E.N.D.S
How are your friendships as an adult going? Not the 500 friends you have on Facebook or that one friend you randomly find at the bar every Saturday and share drinks with. Your tribe/squad play a huge role in influencing your behaviour and energy. 20s are a transitional period where we outgrow friendships and gain new ones just as much. Are you trading face-to-face interaction for social media friendships? Is your squad facilitating your development?
Episode 05: Mental Health
How is your mental health holding up as you navigate the ups and downs of adulting? What tools are you clutching on to to keep from going under? Is it hard for you to talk about your bad days? Mental health affects how we think, feel and act. We need to take care of our minds first before we can be on our A game in all areas of our lives. So let's talk mental health in this last episode of the first season of the Can we talk? podcast!
Can we talk? is an honest fun informative conversation about the messiness of adulting and everything in between. Don't forget to join the conversation on our social media, www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/ Subscribe!
Ep. 6: Conversations series - You're Cancelled!
I'm excited to be back for season 2 and we're starting it off with an episode from our new conversation series. The series will feature guests from all backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
First up, is Awele Juwe, Nigerian, currently living in Canada. She's a blogger, feminist, digital marketer, and is not afraid to be herself. We talk about the last season, cancel culture, owning your identity in the dating game and navigating relationships with African parents. And more!
We love to keep our episodes short and sweet so look out for part 2 next week!
Connect with AJ on instagram: @thejulesguide @dinewithjules_
Connect with us on instagram: can_we_talk_podcast
Ep. 7: Conversation series - It's called growth!
Back with part two of our conversation with Awele Juwe (AJ) as part of our conversation series where we'll be hosting different people like you and me, not far from our reality, to talk everything adulting. Some great ol' conversation!
In this part two, we talk about being comfortable in your skin, having difficult conversations and setting boundaries with friends, social media identity and trying out internet dating. And more!
Connect with AJ on instagram: @thejulesguide @dinewithjules_
Connect with us on instagram: can_we_talk_podcast
Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts!
Ep. 8: Is this love?
How has your definition of love changed throughout the years? What does it mean to you to love someone? How do you feel loved? Is loving yourself separate from loving others? The way we are introduced to love through our relationship with our parents, the movies we watched as kids or the novels we read, shapes a lot of the unconscious ways we behave in intimate relationships. That perception may change as we evolve, through experiences of love, heartbreak and everything in between. We dive into the topic of love on this episode!
Can we talk? is an honest fun informative conversation about the messiness of adulting and everything in between. Don't forget to join the conversation on our social media, www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/ Subscribe! on Apple podcasts.
Ep. 9: Let's talk 12 Rules of Life
Clinical psychologist and professor, Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life provides us with tips and life advice drawing from psychology, religion and personal experience. He calls it an antidote to chaos. "Life is suffering. Get over it." is how I would sum up the book. In this episode we review 12 Rules for life. We talk about caring for yourself, standing up tall and comparing yourself. What rules do YOU live by?
Can we talk? is an honest fun informative conversation about the messiness of adulting and everything in between. Don't forget to join the conversation on our social media, www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/ Subscribe! on Apple podcasts.
Ep. 10: Relationships with parents
Back with a new episode about navigating relationships with parents! The relationship we have with our parents/guardians can get tricky as you grow up and begin to make your own decisions. This episode explores boundary setting with parents, as well as the implications our the relationship we had with our primary care giver can has on us as adults. I also talk about the different attachment styles.
Don't forget to join the conversation on our social media, https://www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/ Subscribe! on Apple podcasts.
Ep. 11: Conversation series - Culture is not static
Excited to be back with a new episode in our Conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
This time I sit down with Martin to talk about men are trash, feminism in regards to the African culture and we get into masculinity on part 2 of the conversation next week! In this first part of the conversation, we talk about the watering down of the men are trash message, how the African culture upholds patriarchy and lots more!
Connect with Martin on instagram: @ijele_africaa
Connect with the host, Belinda on instagram: @kemisolar
Connect with us on instagram: @can_we_talk_podca
Ep. 12: New Beginnings
Kind of late to the party, but Happy New Year! February is already here, but its never too late to start your new year! What are some of your new year rituals? How do you set your goals? Are you intentional about your goals? What lessons have you learnt from the previous decade? We discuss this and more in this episode.
Song: Obudde - Radio & Weasel
Don't forget to join the conversation on our social media, https://www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/ Subscribe! on Apple podcasts.
Ep. 13: Conversation series - There's a difference between toxic & fragile masculinity
You asked for more conversations & we are excited to be back with a new episode in our Conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
This is part 2 of my conversation with Martin (you can find part 1 here https://anchor.fm/can-we-talk/episodes/Conversations-series-Ep--3-Culture-is-not-static-e9aa2q). In this second part of the conversation we talk about places to visit in nigeria, then we dive into toxic masculinity, physical vs. emotional strength, masculinity in the context of nigerian culture, women's attraction to toxic masculinity and more! Connect with Martin on instagram: @ijele_africaa Connect with the host, Belinda on instagram: @kemisolar Connect with us on instagram: @can_we_talk_podcast
Ep. 14: Conversation series - You have to love the person you're in love with
It's Valentines Day & we are excited to be back with a new surprise episode in our Conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation! In this episode, I talk with Bwomono about all things love and relationships. How do you define love? How do you love? Do people give and receive love the same way? We get into what it means to have an intentional relationship and how the relationship with African parents shapes our perspective on love. All this and more in Part one! Because we had to keep it short and sweet as always, part two of the conversation will be out next week on Tuesdays as always! Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or follow on anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast.
Ep. 15: Conversation series - I'm not responsible for her happiness, but I can contribute to it
We are excited to be back with a new episode in our Conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
In this episode, I continue to talk with Bwomono about all things love and relationships. Have you been heartbroken? How did you find healing? How do you maintain your sense of self within a relationship? We get into how society's view on relationships has changed and how to keep the outside noise out of your relationship. All this and more in this second part of the conversation!
Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or follow on anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast.
Music: When a man loves a woman
Omukwano | Maddox
Ep. 16: Things To Do While You Stay Home
Hey guys! Excited to be back with another episode! Hope you are keeping your social distance and listening to the medical professionals' advice on flattening the curve during this time of Corona Virus. Before we get back to our regular episodes, here's an episode on what you can do to keep busy while you stay home. Whether it's getting enough rest or pumping up your home workout, we got you! How are you spending this time at home?
Let us know by reaching out on our social media: can_we_talk_podcast on Instagram. Don't forget to subscribe!
Music: Muna Kampala | Ykee Benda
Ep. 17: Conversation series - Beauty is a bad investment
Excited to be back with another episode in our conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
In this episode, I talk to Melissa Tendo about beauty. How do you define beauty? What frames what/who we consider beautiful? Does conventional beauty play a role in your dating life? Would you consider cosmetic plastic surgery? We talk about colorism, how it affects us as young black women and how society's view on dark-skin has changed, and what implications that has had. All this and more!
Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or follow on anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast.
You can follow Melissa on Instagram (@thesourceug and @sugarboo_256)
Music: Big Bumpa- Mun G
Ep. 18: Spirituality/Religion
Excited to be back with a NEW EPISODE!!! In this self-reflective episode, I explore my own personal spiritual & religious journey. Spirituality and religion involve the belief and worship of something bigger than us and provide a way of finding answers and searching for the meaning of life. What does your journey look like? How has your spiritual/ religious journey evolved through the years? How do you incorporate your spiritual/religious beliefs in your daily life? Don't forget to join the conversation on our social media, https://www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/ Subscribe! on Apple podcasts.
Ep. 19: Conversation series - Speaking as an African woman
Excited to be back with another episode in our conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
In this episode, I talk to Dushiime, co-founder of Pearls for Her, a Ugandan female owned business, about our experiences as African women (Ugandan women in particular). We talk about the role feminism plays in empowering Ugandan women, the power of representation, women's reproductive health and much more! Should men be included in the conversation on feminism? What does the landscape for the next generation of the African woman look like?
Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or follow on anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast.
You can follow Pearls for Her on instagram (@pearlsforherug)
Ep. 20: S.E.X.
In this self-reflective episode, I explore different aspects relating to sex. Sex is a topic that comes up all the time among adults. But how is sex introduced to us as young adults? How does the way sex is introduced to us affect our relationship with it? Is your sex life affecting your mental health?
Join the conversation on our social media, www.instagram.com/can_we_talk_podcast/
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Ep. 21: Conversation series - Finding Home
Excited to be back with another episode in our conversations series! The series will feature guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation! In this episode, I talk to Sarah Kukie, creator of Lyflyn Designs, a design & wellness brand, about her journey to finding home. We talk about home as a place, through the lens of our experiences of leaving our home country and returning; home as the people and community you surround yourself with and much more! What has your journey of finding home within yourself looked like? Do we really ever find home within ourselves? Is home a place or a feeling? Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts or follow on anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast. Host: @muna_kampala Follow Lyflyn Designs on all social media platforms (@Lyflyndesigns) and be sure to join their community!
Ep. 22: Conversation series - Resilience
Excited to be back with another episode in the conversation series! In this episode I talk to Mugabi Byenkya, writer, poet and occasional rapper. We talk about his experiences as a black man living with disabilities, existing within multiple marginalized social categories, spirituality and more!
How do you deal with pain? Do you sit with it in acceptance or do you try to run from it? Do you recognize your privileges as an able bodied person in society? What is your experience with finding the right therapist?
Don't forget to subscribe on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts or follow on Anchor. Follow us on instagram (@can_we_talk_podcast)
You can also follow Mugabi Byenkya (@mugabs) or check out his website here: https://www.mugabibyenkya.com/
Ep. 23: Conversation series - What Do You Want To Be When You Grow Up?
Excited to be back with another episode in the conversation series! In this episode, I talk to Esther Nshakira (@sometimes_esi on IG), a Communications, Digital Marketing & Branding Consultant. We explore the topic of career and purpose. We talk about her decision to go to law school that was shaped by societal and family pressures and how she turned her career around. We talk about the lows of unemployment and the job search, productivity, the fear of rejection and more!
What shaped your decision to enter the field you are working in now? Does creativity allows have to turn into a side hustle? What's your life's purpose and is that different from your career path?
The conversations series features guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
Don't forget to follow/ subscribe on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts, Stitcher, and Anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast.
Ep. 24: Conversation Series - What is your money personality?
Excited to be back with another episode in the conversation series! In this episode, I talk to Patsy Mugabi (@patsymugabi on IG, Patsy Mugabi on YouTube), a money and creative coach. We explore the topic of money through different lenses. We talk about the culture of silence around money in African families, how women relate with money versus how men relate with it. We also talk about unlearning and learning certain money beliefs and more!
What is your money personality? How do you relate with money; are you a spender or saver? Do you discuss finances in your dating life? What is your mental relationship with money?
The conversations series features guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
Don't forget to follow/ subscribe on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts, Stitcher, and Anchor. Follow us on instagram at @can_we_talk_podcast and check out our website: canwetalkpodcast.online.
Ep. 26: Conversation Series - Imposter syndrome
Excited to be back with another episode in the conversation series! In this episode, I talk to Jarvin and Esther from the Millennial Rants Podcast (@millennialrants.pod). We talk about how imposter syndrome can affect different parts of our lives, from the art we create to our careers and relationships. We talk about the root of imposter syndrome and how it presents itself for men versus women. And more!
Do you find yourself comparing your accomplishments to others? Has social media increased levels of feeling inadequate? Do you have an unconscious fear of success?
The conversations series features guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
Don't forget to follow/ subscribe on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts, Stitcher, and Anchor.
Instagram: @can_we_talk_podcast
Website: canwetalkpodcast.online
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Ep. 27: Conversation Series - Masculinity & Culture
Excited to be back with another episode in the conversation series! In this episode, I talk to Paddy Ntulume about masculinity. We talk about the notion of a 'real man', men's mental health, men's friendships and how patriarchy is deeply embedded in our institutions. And more!
What are some of the things men of today's generation have to unlearn and learn? Can men be allies in gender equality? How?
The conversations series features guests from different backgrounds, who are close to our reality, trying to figure out career, love, family and everything adulting. So get ready for some good ol' conversation!
Don't forget to follow/ subscribe on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts, Stitcher, and Anchor.
Instagram: @can_we_talk_podcast
Website: canwetalkpodcast.online
YouTube: Can We Talk Podcas